Denise Gosnell

The Surprising Way To Create Loyal Employees Who Become Your Greatest Assets

As a business owner, you know the critical role your employees play in the success of your company. They’re not just cogs in a machine – they are the machine. They bring your business to life, embodying the values, vision, and work ethic that make your company unique. However, being the foundational bedrock of your enterprise doesn’t exempt them from the ebb and flow of life’s uncertainties. This is where the concept of a “family-first” environment becomes an invaluable tool for fostering loyalty and resilience within your workforce.

Imagine your star employee, let’s call her Amy, whose consistently innovative ideas have driven up your profits over the years. Suddenly, Amy’s mother falls seriously ill. The time Amy would typically use for brainstorming, she now spends in the hospital. What do you do? Many businesses might fear losing productivity or facing setbacks due to Amy’s absence. However, implementing a family-first environment provides a surprising solution: give grace, accommodate emergencies, and in return, garner loyalty that money can’t buy.

The family-first approach is not about sacrificing productivity for the sake of appearing compassionate. Instead, it’s about acknowledging the holistic nature of your employees. People are not work-robots; they have lives outside the workplace, which inevitably will intersect with their professional duties. By recognizing this reality and providing grace during challenging times, you’re investing in your employees’ wellbeing, which translates to increased loyalty and dedication to your company.

Research has consistently shown that employees who feel valued and treated well are more likely to stay, even when presented with higher-paying job opportunities. If an employer stands by an employee during challenging times, the employee will likely stand by the company during its trials.

I actually had this happen in one of my companies where a highly valued team member was so grateful I gave her space to deal with her mother’s illness and passing. Now she is the first one to jump in on short notice and tackle urgent projects.

For example, consider a business that gave an employee bereavement leave and flexible work options after the sudden loss of a family member. This grace period allowed the employee to grieve and start healing, without the added pressure of job insecurity. When the employee returned, they were not only more dedicated to the company but also became an advocate for the company’s culture, influencing other employees’ perceptions and loyalty.

But how can you be both lenient and effective as a business owner? Here are some practical ways to provide grace while still keeping your business running smoothly:

  • Create clear policies: Clearly communicate how your company will respond to personal emergencies. This eliminates ambiguity and provides a sense of security for your employees.
  • Flexible work schedules: Allow for flexible scheduling or remote work options. This gives employees the ability to manage their workload around personal situations without compromising their professional responsibilities.
  • Encourage open communication: Allow for open, honest conversations about personal struggles without fear of reprisal. This fosters trust and enables you to work collaboratively on solutions that suit both parties.
  • Invest in employee assistance programs: Such programs can provide resources and support for employees facing personal emergencies, offering services like counseling or financial planning.

To clarify, advocating for a family-first environment does not imply retaining underperforming employees. A successful business requires a dedicated, hardworking team. If an employee consistently fails to meet expectations, it’s best to part ways quickly. What we’re discussing is providing grace and support for those good employees who hit a rough patch in their personal lives. These are the employees you want to keep because their commitment to your business is as steadfast as your commitment to their wellbeing.

The bottom line is this: when you humanize your workplace, you don’t just gain employees; you gain a family, a community. And just as with any family or community, care, empathy, and understanding form the bonds that hold it together. Not only does this foster a positive work environment, but it also positively impacts your bottom line. Creating a compassionate, family-first environment isn’t just good for your employees—it’s good for business.

Leveraging The Hidden Power Of The Subconscious Mind

Every entrepreneur or business leader has a cache of advice they’ve received over the years – nuggets of wisdom handed down from mentors, or hard-earned lessons from their own personal journeys. For me, the most impactful piece of advice I ever received was a truth that, at first glance, was tough to swallow: most, if not all, of the problems we encounter in our lives are self-inflicted, whether we want to admit it or not.

Before you balk, let me clarify. This isn’t about blaming oneself for every hurdle or stumbling block life throws our way, but rather about recognizing the power of our thoughts and emotions and how they can profoundly shape our physical reality. A difficult pill to swallow, perhaps, but one that can lead to a transformative shift in perspective.

This all became glaringly evident to me when I was grappling with a personal health crisis. As someone whose work revolves heavily around typing, I began experiencing debilitating pain in my neck and hands. I was diagnosed with degenerative disease and carpal tunnel syndrome, conditions that threatened to halt my career and push me towards disability.

Then, during a conversation with a client and good friend, the revelation arrived. He suggested that the cause of my physical ailments might be rooted in something far less tangible: my thoughts and feelings. He introduced me to the concept of Tension Myoneural Syndrome, or TMS.

TMS is a psychosomatic condition where pain is attributed to subconscious emotional or mental stress, rather than physical abnormalities. At the time, I was unhappy with my work, frequently expressing to myself that my job was “such a pain in the neck and that I could barely force myself to work on it.” And, lo and behold, I started to experience a literal pain in the neck and literal pain in my hands.

I followed the recommendations from my friend and sought the advice of a TMS expert, Steven Ozanich, author of “The Great Pain Deception: Faulty Medical Advice is Making Us Worse”. After just 2-3 days of following the steps laid out in his book and from the private consult I did with Steve, the pain literally vanished. It was as if my body had physically manifested my discontent, turning my subconscious thoughts and feelings into tangible, physical pain.

The realization was mind-blowing: our thoughts and feelings can materially impact our reality. This idea was later reinforced in my readings of Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book “Becoming Supernatural,” which, while not explicitly referring to TMS, explores the scientific backing behind the power of the subconscious mind, especially when coupled with your emotions.

So, how can we harness this knowledge for the betterment of our lives and businesses? Here are a few tips:

1. Take Responsibility: Acknowledge the power of your thoughts and feelings. They are not abstract or irrelevant; they can actively shape your reality. Accepting this can lead to a profound shift in perspective and greater control over your life.

2. Cultivate Mindfulness: Regularly check in with yourself. What are you feeling? What are you telling yourself? Consider implementing mindfulness practices into your routine, like meditation or journaling, to help monitor and manage your thoughts and emotions.

3. Practice Thought-Feeling Alignment: Affirmations can be a powerful tool for change, but only when they are aligned with your genuine feelings. It’s not enough to repeat positive phrases; you must truly believe them at your core. The key to a successful affirmation practice is aligning your thoughts with your heartfelt emotions. When both your mind and heart are in sync, the transformation can be profound. So, as you recite your positive affirmations, ensure you’re emotionally connected and truly believe in the positive changes you’re affirming. This synchronization of thoughts and feelings can propel meaningful change in your life.

4. Seek Help When Needed: Sometimes, the power of our thoughts can be overwhelming, and it’s okay to seek help. Reach out to a professional if you feel your thoughts or feelings are causing significant distress.

Recognizing the power of our thoughts and feelings isn’t about shouldering blame, but rather about embracing a greater level of personal accountability and empowerment. It’s about understanding that we can shape our realities, for better or worse. The responsibility lies with us. And with responsibility comes the power to make real, lasting change.

Remember, business is more than financial transactions and strategic plans. It’s an extension of ourselves and understanding our internal dynamics can significantly influence our external successes. Embrace your power, mind your thoughts, and create a reality that fuels both personal well-being and business growth. The choice is yours.

For more information related to this topic, check out my previous articles Aligning Your Head and Heart: The Secret to Creating the Life You Want and The Mindset Makeover: Elevate Your Business with the Power of Positivity.

From Friction to Freedom: Transforming Setbacks Into Expansive Growth

Life is full of friction, those moments where we feel as if we’re being rubbed the wrong way, where something bad happens and we’re left wondering, “Why me?” But what if I told you that you have the power to transform that friction into freedom? To turn every setback into the best thing that has ever happened to you? In this article, I will show you how to harness that power by using one of the methods I teach in my Grow by Subtraction Accelerator program.

Picture this: something negative has happened in your life. It feels like a weight, dragging you down. But instead of sinking, what if you could turn that weight into fuel, propelling you towards new heights? This is the essence of transforming friction into freedom. By focusing on the good, rather than the bad, you can turn any challenge into an opportunity for growth and success.

So, how does one begin this transformation? By using my four-step process. It starts with identifying the current problem or challenge, then asking yourself, “What outcome could make this great?” Next, you must pinpoint the obstacle standing in your way and determine how to overcome it. Finally, outline the next steps and delegate tasks as necessary to transform the situation into a positive experience.

Let me share a personal anecdote to illustrate this process. During the pandemic, we were all forced to stay inside. Instead of focusing on the negatives, I chose to concentrate on the positives. I decided to use this time to get in better shape, despite the challenge of being stuck at home. The obstacle I identified was not being able to go to the gym. To combat this, I updated my home gym. The steps I took included setting up additional equipment I would actually use and committing to using it regularly.

Now, I invite you to ask yourself: What challenges are you currently facing? How can you turn those obstacles into opportunities for growth?

First, focus on the problem at hand. Ask yourself: “What outcome could make this great?” Visualize the best possible result, and imagine how it would feel to achieve it. This is your guiding star, your beacon of hope, the light that will lead you through the darkness of friction.

Next, identify the obstacle standing in your way. Be honest with yourself – don’t shy away from the truth. What is truly stopping you from achieving that great outcome? Is it a lack of resources, knowledge, or confidence? Once you have pinpointed the barrier, you can begin to devise a plan to overcome it.

Now, ask yourself: “How can I overcome that obstacle?” Consider all possible solutions and think creatively. Remember, you have the power to transform friction into freedom, but it requires effort, determination, and perseverance.

Finally, determine your next steps. How can you turn your plan into action? What tasks need to be accomplished, and who can help you achieve them? Delegating responsibilities will not only lighten your load but will also foster a sense of teamwork and camaraderie with those around you.

So, are you ready to transform your life? Are you ready to embrace the power of positive transformation? The road ahead may be fraught with friction, but the destination is a place of freedom, growth, and success.

Remember: every challenge is an opportunity for growth. It’s time to turn setbacks into success stories. Embrace the power within you and transform friction into freedom.

You are not alone in this journey. There will always be others who have faced similar challenges and have successfully overcome them. Surround yourself with a supportive network of individuals who can offer guidance and encouragement as you embark on this transformative journey. As the saying goes, “A rising tide lifts all boats.” Together, you can lift each other to new heights of success.

In conclusion, life’s challenges are inevitable, but how you respond to them is a choice. Embrace the power of positive transformation and turn friction into freedom. By identifying your challenges, focusing on the desired outcome, overcoming obstacles, and taking action, you can turn any setback into an opportunity for growth and success.

As you embark on this journey, always remember: You have the power to overcome any challenge that comes your way. You have the strength to turn setbacks into success stories. You have the resilience to grow by subtraction, and in doing so, you will unlock your true potential.

So, take a deep breath, and step boldly into a brighter future. Transform friction into freedom, and watch as your life blossoms into something truly extraordinary.

It’s time to write your own success story. Are you ready?

Design the Life You Love: Embrace Continuous Growth and Learning

Have you ever stopped to think about what makes life truly fulfilling? How do we find happiness, success, and a sense of purpose in our day-to-day lives? One of the most important and often overlooked aspects of living a fulfilling life is being a life-long learner. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s crucial to continuously grow and learn to advance both our personal and professional lives. In this article, we’ll explore the power of life-long learning.

As for myself, I’ve always had a passion for interior design. For the last 29 years, I’ve been incorporating these skills into my real estate business, and it has brought me immense joy and satisfaction. Despite my success, I realized that there was still so much more to learn and so many ways I could improve. So, I made the decision to take interior design classes in my free time. This new learning experience not only benefits my real estate business, but it also allows me to help my entrepreneur clients design a life they love in more ways than just their business and time management practices.

You see, there are countless aspects to designing a life that you can truly love, including your home, appearance, attitude, and business. My goal is to help others live The Vacation Effect Lifestyle, where every day feels like a vacation because they are so in love with their life. This can only be achieved by embracing continuous learning and personal growth.

So, why is it so important to always be learning? Here are a few reasons:

Adaptability: The world is constantly changing, and being a life-long learner allows you to adapt to new situations, technologies, and ideas. This adaptability is crucial for both personal and professional growth.

Self-improvement: When you commit to continuous learning, you’re investing in yourself. The more you learn, the more you grow, and the better equipped you are to handle life’s challenges.

Fulfillment: There’s a unique sense of accomplishment that comes from learning something new. This fulfillment is something that can’t be replicated any other way and can lead to a more satisfying life overall.

When you’re reading or listening to an expert, it’s important to remember that not everything they say may align with your values or beliefs. That’s okay. Take what resonates with you, and leave what doesn’t. The key is to be open to new ideas and willing to learn from various sources.

As you embark on your journey of life-long learning, here are a few tips to help you stay motivated and inspired:

  • Set clear goals: Define what you want to learn, and create a roadmap to get there. This will help you stay focused and motivated.

  • Find your passion: Discover what truly excites and motivates you. When you’re passionate about something, learning becomes a joy, not a chore.

  • Be curious: Ask questions, explore new ideas, and challenge your assumptions. Embrace the mindset of a curious learner.

  • Surround yourself with like-minded people: Engage with others who share your passion for learning and personal growth. Their enthusiasm will be contagious and help fuel your own.

  • Celebrate your progress: As you achieve milestones in your learning journey, take the time to recognize and celebrate your accomplishments. This will help keep you motivated and excited about your ongoing growth.

As we embrace the path of continuous growth and self-improvement, we unlock our true potential and design a life that brings us joy, fulfillment, and purpose. We start to see the world through a lens of curiosity and wonder, allowing us to savor the beauty in every experience. The Vacation Effect Lifestyle becomes our reality, and every day feels like a celebration of our unique journey.

In conclusion, never underestimate the power of being a life-long learner. It’s the catalyst for personal and professional growth and the key to becoming a full lifestyle designer. As you embark on your journey, remember to be open-minded, discerning, and committed to your goals. The world is waiting for you, and the possibilities are endless.

Wander with Purpose: Unleashing Personal Growth Through World Exploration

Have you ever felt the urge to break free from the monotony of daily life? Do you crave new experiences and desire to push your limits? If you answered yes, then it’s time to embark on a journey of self-discovery through travel. I, too, found myself in the same position over 20 years ago, and since then, my life has never been the same. Travel has been an essential part of my personal growth, and I’m here to share my experiences and insights to inspire you to take that first step.

The Road to Self-Discovery: My Personal Journey

My passion for travel has led me to four of the seven continents, and I’m determined to explore them all. Each journey has brought me closer to understanding the world and my place within it. For one week per month, I leave my comfort zone and immerse myself in the beauty of different cultures, landscapes, and experiences.

Traveling has not only enriched my life but also expanded my circle of friends. I’ve made connections with people from all corners of the globe, and these friendships have become invaluable. The ability to host and visit friends in various countries has made my trips even more memorable and has fostered a sense of global community that I cherish.

Tips for Traveling with Purpose: Planning, Business, and Budgeting

One of the keys to successful travel for personal growth is being proactive in your planning. I actively search for events in cities that pique my interest, such as cultural festivals, workshops, or conferences. This not only gives me a reason to visit a new destination but also ensures that I am constantly learning and growing during my travels.

For those who, like me, run a business or freelance, another helpful tip is to search for business-related events that can turn your trip into a business expense. By doing so, you can legally write off some of your travel costs on your taxes. I plan these trips months in advance, and I share my upcoming schedule in my weekly newsletter.

My love for travel has led me to establish a second home in Sedona, Arizona, where I can rejuvenate my soul and spark new ideas for my business. A change of scenery can work wonders in reinvigorating your mind and spirit, and it’s something I wholeheartedly encourage.

You don’t need to break the bank to experience the joys of travel. I urge you to travel within your budget, even if it means exploring a new state over a weekend. The important thing is to step out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to new experiences.

The Transformative Power of Travel: Unlocking Your Potential

What makes travel so transformative? It’s the opportunity to challenge yourself, to encounter new perspectives, and to grow as an individual. When we travel, we are exposed to new ways of thinking, living, and being. Each new place we visit offers a chance to learn something new about ourselves, and that is a priceless gift.

Travel has taught me the value of adaptability, resilience, and open-mindedness. It has shown me that I am capable of so much more than I ever believed possible. And I want you to experience the same.

A Call to Action: Embrace the World and Discover Your True Self

So, are you ready to embark on your own journey of self-discovery? Take that first step and open the door to a world of growth, learning, and new experiences. Remember, it’s not about the miles you travel but the personal growth you achieve along the way.

Travel far and wide, or start small with a weekend getaway. The choice is yours, but the important thing is to begin. And as you explore the world, don ‘t forget to share your experiences with others, inspiring them to embrace the transformative power of travel as well.

As you embark on this incredible journey, remember to stay open to new experiences, to be present in each moment, and to embrace the lessons that come your way. Traveling is not just about seeing new sights; it’s about finding yourself in the process.

Remember, personal growth is a lifelong journey, and travel is an incredible catalyst for self-discovery. As you venture into the unknown, you will uncover hidden strengths, passions, and talents that you never knew existed within you. The world is waiting for you, and the possibilities are endless.

So, go forth and explore, connect with people from all walks of life, and let the world become your classroom. Embrace the challenge, celebrate the victories, and learn from the setbacks. Through travel, you will not only discover new destinations but also uncover the untapped potential within yourself.

Are you ready to take the leap? Your journey to personal growth starts now.

Aligning Your Head and Heart: The Secret to Creating the Life You Want

It’s a well-known fact that having a positive attitude is essential for success in life and business. You’ve probably heard countless motivational speakers, successful entrepreneurs, and best-selling authors all emphasize the power of maintaining a positive mindset. While that’s undeniably true, there’s a crucial element that often gets overlooked: the role of emotion. In this article, we’ll explore how aligning your attitude with your emotions can supercharge your results and help you achieve your goals more quickly.

As the author of the quote, “Make today the way you want tomorrow to be,” I firmly believe that it captures the essence of this concept. By envisioning yourself as a future version who has already accomplished your desired outcomes, you not only cultivate the proper mindset but also embody the positive emotions associated with achievement. This approach can be a powerful tool for staying motivated and focused on your goals.

The Power of Emotion: Lining Up Your Heart with Your Head

To create the life you want, you need to do more than just think positive thoughts; you must also feel the positive emotions that come with having achieved the outcome you desire. When you align both your mind (attitude) and your heart (emotion), things truly happen more quickly. Emotions are the catalyst that transforms your attitude into action, creating a potent formula for success.

Here are some tips on how to align your head and your heart for maximum results:

  • Practice Gratitude
    Gratitude is a powerful emotion that can help you align your attitude and emotions. When you practice gratitude, you focus on the positive aspects of your life and business, fostering a sense of abundance and well-being. Make it a habit to list at least three things you’re grateful for each day. This simple act will help you attract more positivity and success into your life.
  • Visualize Your Ideal Life
    Each morning when you wake up, take a few minutes to visualize your ideal life. Imagine yourself living the life you desire, having already achieved your goals. Allow yourself to experience the positive emotions that come with that success. Visualization helps your subconscious mind believe that your goals are attainable, which, in turn, propels you toward achieving them.
  • Cultivate Positive Emotions
    Surround yourself with people and experiences that evoke positive emotions. Engage in activities that bring you joy, and nurture relationships with those who uplift and inspire you. The more you immerse yourself in positive emotions, the more you’ll attract success and happiness into your life.
  • Use Affirmations
    Affirmations are positive statements that help you replace negative beliefs with empowering ones. By repeating affirmations, you can reshape your mindset and align your emotions with your attitude. Write down some affirmations related to your goals and repeat them daily. This practice will help you maintain a positive attitude and create the emotional state needed for success.
  • Embrace Failure as a Learning Opportunity
    One of the biggest barriers to aligning your attitude and emotions is the fear of failure. Instead of dwelling on setbacks, view them as learning opportunities that bring you closer to your goals. This shift in perspective will help you cultivate resilience and a growth mindset, which are essential for success in life and business.
  • Adopt the “As If” Mindset
    Act as if you have already achieved your goals. Embody the confidence, mindset, and emotional state of your future successful self. By adopting this mindset, you’ll naturally start taking actions that align with your desired outcomes.

“Becoming Supernatural” by Dr. Joe Dispenza

If you’re looking for more information on aligning your attitude and emotions for success, a great book I recently read is “Becoming Supernatural” by Dr. Joe Dispenza. In this groundbreaking work, Dr. Dispenza explores the science behind personal transformation and provides practical strategies for harnessing the power of your thoughts and emotions to create a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Embrace the Power of Attitude and Emotion

As business owners, it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day tasks of running a company and lose sight of the bigger picture. But if you want to create the life you’ve always dreamed of, it’s crucial to align your attitude and emotions. By consciously cultivating positive emotions and combining them with a winning attitude, you’ll unlock a powerful synergy that propels you toward your goals faster than you ever thought possible.

Remember, “Make today the way you want tomorrow to be,” and step into the future version of yourself who has already achieved the results you desire. By aligning your head and your heart, you’ll not only build a thriving business but also create a fulfilling and successful life.

So, go ahead and practice gratitude, visualize your ideal life, cultivate positive emotions, use affirmations, embrace failure as a learning opportunity, adopt the “as if” mindset, and read “Becoming Supernatural” by Dr. Joe Dispenza. These tips will help you harness the power of attitude and emotion, and create the life and business you’ve always wanted. It’s not just about having a positive attitude; it’s about aligning that attitude with the powerful emotions that propel you toward your goals. When you master this alignment, you’ll truly experience the magic of creating the life you want.